I get comments on our family size all the time. I’m sure I mentioned this before, but one day does not go by when I am out when someone does not say to me, "You have your hands full."
Now, why is this starting to sound old?
1. Because I can actually SEE & FEEL the phrase coming!
2. Because it always comes.
3. Because the entire city has now said that to me.
4. But, more importantly, because I don’t consider four children to really be a large family.
It seems like our culture considers 2-4 children an acceptable amount. Of course, four is pushing it. But it is generally considered okay when you are trying for a specific gender. Imagine their curiosity then, to see me walk by with a girl, and then three boys following. They’re probably thinking I don’t know what causes it. Or even worse, that I do know and it is my source of income!
It makes me so happy when I pull out my checkbook to pay for my groceries and not the expected WIC coupons. And my children look so much alike that there can not be any doubt, even to a stranger, that they all have the same parentage.
It makes me even happier to see my children behaving as a Christian Homeschooling Family should. Of course, they have their moments. But they are learning that we are to be examples to the world around us. It’s important that large families and homeschoolers don’t get a bad rap because of our family’s behavior in public places.
But what will they say (or think) when I cross over that acceptable threshhold and have my fifth, sixth or eighth baby?
I don’t really care what they think. But sometimes folks can be verbally rude and nosy and that bothers me a lot.
Most days, telling me I have my hands full doesn’t really bother me.
I just tell them our hearts are full, too.